Diamant, Anita. Saying Kaddish. BM 712 .D53199.
Explains Kaddish, Shiva, and Yahrzeit customs. For readers who are paying a shiva visit for the first time, this book provides suggestions for what to expect, say, bring, and do. There is extensive and sensitive treatment of questions on how to bury and mourn non-Jews within a Jewish community.
Greenberg, Sidney. A Treasury of Comfort. BF 575 .G7G68 1994.
This anthology of short poems and meditations on loss would be good to read aloud or with someone. The short selections are so diverse that there is sure to be some helpful word for any reader.
Heilman, Samuel C. When a Jew Dies. BM712 .H45
More scholarly than purely practical, this book provides an overview of death rituals in Jewish law and a detailed understanding of how a chevra kaddisha prepares a dead body for burial.
Kay, Alan. A Jewish Book of Comfort. BM712 .K385. Over 175 inspirational readings to comfort the mourner. Explains traditions and rituals of mourning
Levine, Aaron. To Comfort the Bereaved : A Guide for Mourners and Those Who Visit Them. BM712 .L43
Topics in this practical book include the traditions for the meal of condolence, visitation obligations, visiting the house of mourning, and what to say/what not to say. The book is laid out as an outline.